Good wellbeing means different things to different people. Each one of us has to pave their way to a life that is relevant, consequential, and rewarding.
Well-being is necessary for a holistic healthy existence.
How to Manage Your Mental and Emotional Well-Being?
Your degree of well-being is intimately linked to your self-image.
Your self-image is the sum of all the thoughts, feelings and beliefs about:
1. Who you really are,
2. What you are capable of,
3. What you are NOT capable of, and
4. Where you fit in the scheme of things.
Those who have a high degree of well being, have a strong self-image:
1. They know who they are.
2. They believe themselves to be capable.
3. They believe they are worthy.
4. They believe they can achieve any goal they set for themselves.
People with emotional well being issues tend to attach the following characteristics to that mistake:
1. Permanence: means that the mistake has durability and stability and will be there forever.
2. Pervasiveness: means the mistake implies other, associated errors and weaknesses.
3. Personality: means the mistake reveals a personality flaw.
On the other hand, people with good well-being do NOT associate these characteristics to the mistake. Good mental and emotional well being means any mistake you make is:
1. NOT permanent.
2. NOT pervasive.
3. NOT a reflection on your personality. The mistake was “just a blip” and not a true representation of “the real you”.
“To be wronged is nothing, unless you continue to remember it.” Confucius
Why Is Self-Care Vital for Your Overall Well Being?
A big part of how we deal with our challenges is our psychological and emotional well-being. Sadly, most people don’t take very good care of their mental well-being. However, just how it is important to take care of your physical health, it is vital to take care of your emotional well-being.
There are things that all of us can do to help us with emotional regulation, better understanding of our emotions and needs, healthier relationships, or in developing more preferable habits. Everyone needs to find their own list of things that helps them feel more grounded, energetic, and inspired.
Here is a list of activities and attitudes that you can incorporate into your daily life to improve and maintain your mental well-being.
DOs
Journal about your day to get a better perspective and keep track of things. Ask yourself how you feel several times a day to develop emotional self-awareness.
Dedicate time to analyzing your past and working on your deeper issues.
In the morning or a day before, write down a schedule for the day to be more structured.
Have a list of things you can do to calm down when you’re overwhelmed and use it when it happens.
Slow. Down.
Spend time in nature and solitude to clear your mind and recharge.
Have some time where you let yourself be in the moment without thinking about the past or the future.
Start your day by reminding yourself of things that you are grateful for.
End your day by reflecting on the things you did or enjoyed today, even if they seem small.
Have a healthy sleep schedule.
Dedicate time for your relationships and for improving your social skills.
Let yourself relax by doing something fun, relaxing, or unproductive.
Occasionally try new things to expand your comfort zone.
Take significant breaks from social media and the internet in general.
Let yourself make reasonable mistakes and trust yourself that you’ll be okay.
Find a creative outlet: writing, dancing, singing, playing an instrument, etc.
Take responsibility for what you are responsible for, and always aim to meet those responsibilities as best as you can with no excuses.
Seek progress: by learning new skills, expanding your knowledge base, or improving your current skillset.
Learn to say no and set healthier boundaries.
If needed, seek help from your loved ones and/or from professionals.
DON’Ts
Don’t think in SHOULDs and HAVE TOs, and try to switch to WANTs and CHOOSE TOs to alleviate mental pressure and anxiety.
Don’t stay in abusive and otherwise toxic environments.
Don’t wait for somebody to save you or for good things to happen to you; take responsibility for the things that you can control and improve, and do that.
Don’t ignore red flags in people’s behavior.
Don’t ignore your needs and emotions; you will pay dearly for it one way or another.
Don’t take others perception of you too seriously, both negative and positive.
Don’t be dependent on others validation, and aim to build a healthy, realistic sense of self-esteem that comes from within.
Don’t try to constantly prove yourself to people, and accept that some people will misunderstand or mischaracterize you but you will be okay.
Don’t hope for your unhealthy relationships to magically transform into healthy ones; it never happens, no matter how hard you want it.
Don’t concentrate on the result as much, and learn to enjoy the process instead..
These are just a few things that can help you live a more fulfilling life, but this list can go forever.
In addition to this, we have a great rescue for you, a personal coach in hand: The Yellow Journal: Your Safe Space & Accountability Partner that comes with prompts for self-reflection, that will nudge you to get out of your comfort zone and instill the habit of practicing gratitude.
It’s the perfect time to take your mental wellbeing in your own hands!
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